It was a gloriously warm and sunny day, so mom Laura Mazza donned her cute red-and-white striped one-piece swimming suit, piled her up atop her head in a messy bun and went outside. She paused for a moment, resting her elbows on the back deck railing and gazed out across the backyard.
At this very moment, her hubby spied his wife in a peaceful pause from their busy lives, so he whipped out his phone and snapped a pic, just for him to savor. But when Mazza found it on his phone, she freaked out.
This blogging momma shares her feelings on her website Mum on the Run, which is where she vented about the incident. She couldn’t believe what he had done!
“I saw this photo in my husband’s phone, and said, ‘Why the hell would you take a photo of me at that angle?’
She immediately became self-conscious. She could see cellulite, a broadened back side and other things she didn’t want to envision, she shared with Love What Matters.
“It reminded me when I took a photo of me and my newborn son and someone asked me if I wanted to try a scrub that got rid of acne scars and a cream that rid me of dark lines under the eyes – I had been in labor for 14 hours. But it made me feel bad about myself, even though I was feeling euphoric. I also once had a girl tell me quietly that my dress would look better if I had some Spanx on – I had a cesarean three months prior to that. I loved the way I looked in that dress.”
After that, Mazzo turned to a Facebook group for moms she frequented to see if anyone had some terrific advice for muscle separation, but instead, people tried to sell her stomach wraps. Then when she asked a friend to help her find a flattering swimsuit, her comment hurt.
“Right, straight to the plus-size section. They have the best tummy control.”
Every single hurtful comment came from a female. Mazzo felt betrayed.
“I don’t blame them. I’m not angry. This is what society has taught them, this is what cultural pressures have led them to believe, and so much so, that they feel it’s okay to say it to their fellow sisters as if it’s helping us. It’s hammered into us – you give birth. You bounce back. You don’t? And you’re lazy. You’re not trying hard enough.”
It seems as if moms must “justify” to others why their bodies have changed so much after having kids. It’s nothing a mom should be ashamed about.
“…it’s because you had a freaking baby. Why is that so shameful?”
She admitted she has cellulite, but so do many people, she said. Women have female organs and stretchmarks and grew miracles within their bodies; there should be no shame in looking the way they do, Mazza emphasized.
After she confronted her husband about the photo, his response warmed her heart…
“‘You looked so happy!’ … That’s all he saw, not my cellulite, not my imperfections. He saw a happy wife enjoying a moment, and he was right. I was happy. I am happy. That’s all that matters.”
Mazza shared such sage advice that women should absorb and follow. Females’ bodies are beautiful miracles tasked with the amazing job of growing babies and should always be cherished no matter how they look.